Forgive and forget? How hard is it to forgive? And is it even right to deflate the bloated ego of ours and live ‘meekly’ in this world of sinners, who would provoke and incite just for sheer delight of it? And how far would you tolerate and nurse your bruised consciousness? Can you forget that unsatisfied hunger, of that trust once broken?
A conversation with one my well wishers got into such a direction, that I couldn’t help but take up the pen. Somehow, some person someway had broken his trust some days back. Now, given this person, I don’t know him since eternity, but he’s a romantic. Though not in its conservative sense, but he’s loud about his life, highly opinionated, loves his guitar, music, loved somebody and everything else that was happening in his life. As invariably everything grows, he too grew, but like a ‘speaking tree’ which doesn’t know, which direction it is growing into. Overnight he grew as a new born grows.
His justification of his vengeful attitude was merely satisfying his inflated ego, that was a result of a misfit, a misdeed of someone else. To be precise, that was not his, but now IS. Hence find peace and his ever after. But unfortunately the child has grown, the dream is gone, and he is just living in her afterglow.
Forgiveness is a two pronged fork. You kill your false ego and you subsequently make the other person realize his/her folly. But, what if he/she doesn’t realize? They continue to hurt and pelt stones at you? What do you do? You hiss, but you don’t strike! You hiss, because you need to protect your own identity and you don’t strike, because you are the driver of your consciousness, and not the situation that you have been through, or are now. You don’t become, what someone, made you to be. It’s your will that nobody, but you should steer.
Forgiving someone is not succumbing to pressure; it is not a trait that says cannot fight for your rights. When you forgive, you join the fight for freedom. Freedom from your tunnel vision, freedom from your persecuted and paralyzed self!
“Beyond your tunnel vision, reality fades like shadows into the light”
There are 7 levels of consciousness, and self pity lies in the lowest rung of them all. Avenge comes from self pity, which in turn comes from a desire to prove yourself to the world. DO NOT distribute your loss; it will never bring the smile back on your face, instead spread the smile, so that it can be put back on you. This smile shall have a much greater joy than you can ever imagine. After that, if something other than self pity touches you, you should be grateful.
Keep the truth within you, and you will find that love has never lied to you, but it is you failed to understand. Forgiveness is a candle, the flame – the hope and the warmth – the love that emanates. Imagine yourself as that candle, which bears the hope (flame) and the fact that love seeps out from your acts of forgiveness. You can put the flame, but it will still be warm. Light it again, when it’s still warm!
The act of forgiveness is a beautiful thing, unconditional love is the key, forgiveness is the door and self pity is the thing you leave behind, and peace and unbound joy and the gift awaiting you as you shift your horizon and light the flame!
Quotes you’d love to Quote:
When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free~ Catherine Ponder
There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love~ Bryant H. McGill
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you~ Lewis B. Smedes
You can’t undo anything you’ve already done, but you can face up to it. You can tell the truth. You can seek forgiveness. And then let God do the rest~ Author Unknown
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness~ Robert Muller